Tip #1 - Be a douche bag some of the time
Look around you. Notice something? If you are looking in the right places you’ll see that some very successful people whether it is in business, in the arts or in having the hottest boyfriend/girlfriend you’ve ever seen all have something in common. Maybe not all of the time, but definitely some of the time these people are douche bags.
It’s a strange thing about humanity and the rules of attraction. Being too nice, despite it making complete rational sense, is a big turn off. Our subconscious and conscious battling it out once again. Although we know we shouldn’t like it when someone treats us poorly, our subconscious is drawn to that person. Being a douche bag in business leads to more power and influence over others around you. In love, being a douche plays into an underlying need for us all to be accepted. It makes no fucking sense at all, but don’t blame me; blame DNA. This insanity is indeed hardwired into our genes. Go ahead, try and fight it. You can’t. Give up.
What you can do is accept it and adapt. If you’re too nice, figure out those moments when there is an opportunity to not be nice and give it a shot. Learn something from George Costanza and do the opposite of what you would normally do. Do this enough times and the results will follow. You’ll soon find that you are relied on more at work, getting praised for that shitty painting of a Maple tree and banging hotties in dirty places like a bathroom stall at Newark airport.
If you really want to get ahead in life first you must get under people’s skin.